Thursday, June 3, 2010

what would you do?...

When we, ok I, decided that the tribe needed to attend preschool I never thought twice about splitting the foursome up. I knew that in order for them to thrive they needed NEW experiences separate from one another. I then thought I would not stick it to the same teacher to by having both Avery & Lindsey in their class so I split them up. From the beginning it worked out really good. Which two would be in the same class was an easy decision since Linz takes care of Brendan so I put them in the same class. I would hear all kinds of stuff from each of them when I picked them up. Who they sat next to, who they played with, I even heard who Brendan thought was his "girlfriend". Yes at the ripe 'ol age of three he has a found himself a girlfriend! He talks about her, Olivia, a lot! I think she is the first girl outside of his sisters that he has really gotten to know. It just melts my heart that my little man has a girlfriend!! [=

Since the tribe has only attended school for just under two months I feel that I am still learning the ropes. There is just SO much to remember when there are FOUR kids to keep up with. FOUR lunches, FOUR back packs, FOUR crib sheets & FOUR blankets to put in those back packs. Then there's the Pull Ups, Pull Ups & even more Pull Ups. {still NOT potty trained} Oh and the FOUR folders to check with all of their "stuff" in it! I never really paid attention to how different the class crafts are until Mother's Day. You see Bren & Linz came home with presents for me, but Cam & Aave did not. Not that I needed any gifts but the thought was SUPER sweet! Can't help to notice the excitement in your childs eyes when they hand you something they made just for you! As I opened the presents Cam & Aave wanted to know where their gift for me was. I felt bad because that was when I realized what putting them in different classes would mean, different "stuff". I never even thought of that! I thought everything would be the same! I don't think the school ever thought about this either. I do love the arrangement we have now but I wonder if it was the right thing to do. Is there a life lesson in this? Should I leave things alone? or should I say something?...

What would you do?...

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi, My name is Stephanie and I have been a fan of
your site for a while now. I have always been facinated by multiples and read many blogs to pass my day at work (lol, even though I should be busy working). Anyway, though I have NO experience with multiples of the same age, I am the youngest of three girls and can tell you that the "differences" happen to all families who have more than one child. Just re-assure your child(ren) whom feel left out that they will have things to do in their classes and to not worry. You can't shield them from the world just make them feel proud of everything that they do at the time. It might be a good idea to check with Cam and Avery's teacher to see what she has planned. Don't necessarily compare but inquire as to what she does with her students throughout the year as this would be a normal question from any parent. Hope this helps and thanks for sharing all you fun adventures.

Stephanie :)

Wade's World said...

I think for the sake of the kids (and the teacher), splitting them up was the right thing to do. That being said, I would definitely gently say something to the teacher in question (or the director) about future holidays and crafts. Kids crafts don't take too much time, but for half of your crew to make something and the other half not, will only lead to hurt feelings and resentment within your family.

Maybe the teacher needs help and you could go in on craft days to be a "room mother" to offer a helping hand. Just a thought with Father's Day quickly approaching.

If it were me, I would ask if all the classes do the same projects for special occasions, and then explain what happened with Mother's Day. It may be that it has never come up because they haven't worked with a family in your situation. If that's the case, I think it would be an easy enough solution to have all the kids in the same age categories do the same crafts.

Good luck!

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